PGP # III

Introduction

Do You Need To Love and Be Loved?

The purpose of this 2-Day Workshop is to help you find success and fulfillment in your relationship—if you're just starting out or if you're wondering why you've never found a satisfying closeness.

This workshop is based on the ground breaking works of the internationally acclaimed influential teacher and physician, Deepak Chopra, Robert C. Solomon, Professor of Philosophy at the University of Texas, USA, and trained therapist and counselor, Sheila Dainow, Personal & Communication Skills Expert, Gill Cox and the Great Mystic Master Osho (Acharya Shree Rajaneesh).

Incorporating the findings of their research, insights, wisdom and practical suggestions, this workshop is designed to help you explore how our hearts have lost their center and why love so often falls short of filling a deep, aching need within us. These world class physicians, therapists, counselors and learned beings explain how we can reinvent the love we long for, one which is rich and meaningful, satisfying and lasting—by resorting to love its missing element: spirituality.

The bottom message is clear—people need people! On a purely practical level, if people didn't come together the human race would become extinct. Clearly, people don't only seek to be together for sexual intercourse leading to procreation. We make relationships in order to be reassured of our acceptability, to feel companionship, to feel safer in a world that can seem full of danger. To put it in simple words, people thrive on being loved.

Eric Berne, the creator of Transactional Analysis emphasized the need of physical contact for healthy psychological survival for all humankind. He called this contact "strokes', and pointed out that in a particular society people are often deprived of physical contact at a very early age. It's quite unusual for adults in our society to touch each other as part of their ordinary communications—say in business, or on the street, or even in the home. Berne says that we convert this need for physical contact (which we naturally get as children from mothers, family and other adults), into a need for attention. Each unit of attention equals a stroke, and each of us needs a certain supply of strokes in order to feel happy with our lives.

Hence, making close relationships is the best way of getting strokes. But just because it's basic human need doesn't make it automatically easy. There are some people who seem to have a life packed with meaningful, and on the whole enjoyable, relationships, and others who find it difficult to start them up, or keep them going.

This workshop is for;

anyone who wants to understand more about relationships, or
those who want to be more in charge of the kind of relationships they have.
people just starting out, and
those who have had experience.
the young girl or boy wondering whether they're ever going to meet someone special,
those who are older and wonder why they've met many people, but never experienced a satisfying closeness.

This workshop is designed in a way that would also be useful and interesting to people who are concerned about other kinds of relationship. Getting on with family, friends, and work colleagues can be just as important, and provide just as many problems, as our more intimate relationships. You are welcome to use the ideas in this workshop to be of help to anyone who wants to understand and/or improve their way of relating to other person in their lives. The suggested activities or exercises could be applied to your own life. Please use this workshop in whatever way seems most useful, and enjoyable, to you.

What We Will Cover Here

Session 1 Introduction: Reinventing Love

Session 2 A Theory of Love

Session 3 The Elusive Emotion

The Critical Question:

"But is it love?"

"Is it what I want, what I'm looking for?"

"And if it is not. the what is?"

Session 4 "I Love You"

Love & Reciprocity

Romantic Love/ Other Cultures

Session 5 Getting Clear About Love

Is Love a Feeling?

Love & relationships

Love Stories

Beauty as the Basis of Love

Love among the Elderly

Session 6 "Falling in Love"

Love and Its Vicissitudes: "The Real Thing"

The Joys of Sex

Love At First Sight

The Perils and Pleasures of Romantic Attraction: Why We Fall in Love

Reasons for Love

Love & Fantasy

From Falling to Being In Love: The Coordination Problem

Loving and In Love

Session 7 The Self in Love

The Identity Theory of Love

The Indeterminacy of the Self

The Romantic Creation of the Self

The Dimensions of Identity ("Do Opposites Attract?")

Session 8 The Dynamics of Love: Making Love Last

Caring and the Myth of Selfishness

Love and time

Intimacy

Equality and the Problem of Power

Possession & Possessiveness

The Importance of fights in Love

Friendship as The foundation of Love

The Meaning of Fidelity

The Waning of Love, And Keeping Love Alive

Reinventing Love

Tuitions:

NC Rs. 1,500/-per participant. Tea and Snacks included.

Number of Participants: 50 Max

Timing: 8:30 AM—5:00 PM